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  2. dotellstories:

    In a break from our usual format, I am sharing some important writing on the shooting in Santa Barbara by a gunman who sought revenge against womankind for having refused to offer him sex and love.

    Jessica Valenti writes at the Guardian about the mistake of identifying this incident as one person’s isolated delusion. Violence against women happens worldwide and every day on unfathomable scales. The gunman’s terrifying views have been shared so widely because they resonate with people. Shame from rejection is a powerful emotion, and is so often redirected as misplaced anger. And, tragically, fear of retribution for simply exerting our autonomy is a daily reality for many women, as the #YesAllWomen hashtag makes plain.

    We will never stamp out violent incidents altogether, but it is a heartless mistake to continue ignoring the readily identifiable forces that drive violence against women. To be clear, nobody “owes” anybody else sex. Women do not exist for other people’s pleasure.

    -Melissa

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  3. We’re still posting new stories daily over at Do Tell. Please follow, reblog, search your favorite topics, and share your own story!

     
  4. We want to spread the word about our Booster campaign for Unsure/Positive, a dramedy series about life with HIV. http://thndr.it/1nfDlgl

     

  5. I found this Do Tell story particularly moving. It’s at the nexus of issues that can be hard to discuss—teenage sexuality and illness/cancer. Do Tell is accepting new personal sexuality stories from anyone over 18 for the month of March in celebration of Women’s History Month. Please spread the word.

    dotellstories:

    When I tell my story to people, I tell them that what gave me strength was the thought of having sex. People usually react with an awkward laugh. But it was true. What else can a 16 year old want? If it’s not to experience the ultimate pleasure? The thing nobody talks about but everyone does.

    The first time it happened I kept my shirt on because I was afraid I was not a whole woman. I had too many scars and I felt mutilated, broken. But soon I forgot all that, and I let my body feel whole again. It was better than I had ever imagined. The loss of my hearing, bone, and muscles didn’t matter. I felt I could experience my body like I never did before. It was freedom. It’s being 13 years. When someone asks me how I beat cancer, I tell them this.

     

  6. K.

    Twenty years is the age difference between my current guy and I. We fuck like mad, though. I’ve had a whole lot of sex, but he’s by far the most intense, most satisfying so far. It’s rough and gentle and beautiful. He holds me close and pulls my hair. I tell him I love him, but once I dragged my nails so hard and deep across his chest, I drew blood. I licked his wounds, tasted his blood. A few nights ago, I rode him like the world was ending. Afterward, he said, “I didn’t think there were any surprises left for me, but you blew my mind. I have never been fucked like that in my life.” And he never will be, by anyone else. We fuck each other stupid, silly, beautiful. Roughly, gently, patiently, eagerly.

     

  7. dotellstories:

    Virginity looms large in the American consciousness. But looking at how we actually start having sex, the binary of virginity does an embarrassingly bad job describing how young people come to embody their sexual selves. The whole virginity concept — a switch that gets flipped with or without our intention — is at odds with the idea of consent in sex. Can we have both virginity and consent? And if not, which one are we prepared to let go?

    Over at Salon, discussion of virginity, sexual debut, and the many different ways to think about sexuality activity via Do Tell's editor, Melissa Tapper Goldman

    Trigger warning: mentions sexual violence

     
  8. monaeltahawy:

    Muriel Rukeyser, born Dec. 15, 1913. 

     

  9. Hey storytellers of Do Tell. WE made it to Huffington Post’s list of 10 women to be grateful for this Thanksgiving—together. Thank you for your honesty and courage.

    Let’s build a year of feeling safe and comfortable talking about our lives, our bodies, and our experiences.

     

  10. In Austin tonight: Live storytelling

    Bedpost Confessions is a live show and podcast featuring no-holds-barred storytelling about sex and sexuality. If you’re in Austin, Texas, you can check it out live tonight.