1. I found this Do Tell story particularly moving. It’s at the nexus of issues that can be hard to discuss—teenage sexuality and illness/cancer. Do Tell is accepting new personal sexuality stories from anyone over 18 for the month of March in celebration of Women’s History Month. Please spread the word.


    When I tell my story to people, I tell them that what gave me strength was the thought of having sex. People usually react with an awkward laugh. But it was true. What else can a 16 year old want? If it’s not to experience the ultimate pleasure? The thing nobody talks about but everyone does.

    The first time it happened I kept my shirt on because I was afraid I was not a whole woman. I had too many scars and I felt mutilated, broken. But soon I forgot all that, and I let my body feel whole again. It was better than I had ever imagined. The loss of my hearing, bone, and muscles didn’t matter. I felt I could experience my body like I never did before. It was freedom. It’s being 13 years. When someone asks me how I beat cancer, I tell them this.


  2. K.

    Twenty years is the age difference between my current guy and I. We fuck like mad, though. I’ve had a whole lot of sex, but he’s by far the most intense, most satisfying so far. It’s rough and gentle and beautiful. He holds me close and pulls my hair. I tell him I love him, but once I dragged my nails so hard and deep across his chest, I drew blood. I licked his wounds, tasted his blood. A few nights ago, I rode him like the world was ending. Afterward, he said, “I didn’t think there were any surprises left for me, but you blew my mind. I have never been fucked like that in my life.” And he never will be, by anyone else. We fuck each other stupid, silly, beautiful. Roughly, gently, patiently, eagerly.


  3. dotellstories:

    Virginity looms large in the American consciousness. But looking at how we actually start having sex, the binary of virginity does an embarrassingly bad job describing how young people come to embody their sexual selves. The whole virginity concept — a switch that gets flipped with or without our intention — is at odds with the idea of consent in sex. Can we have both virginity and consent? And if not, which one are we prepared to let go?

    Over at Salon, discussion of virginity, sexual debut, and the many different ways to think about sexuality activity via Do Tell's editor, Melissa Tapper Goldman

    Trigger warning: mentions sexual violence

  4. monaeltahawy:

    Muriel Rukeyser, born Dec. 15, 1913. 


  5. Hey storytellers of Do Tell. WE made it to Huffington Post’s list of 10 women to be grateful for this Thanksgiving—together. Thank you for your honesty and courage.

    Let’s build a year of feeling safe and comfortable talking about our lives, our bodies, and our experiences.


  6. In Austin tonight: Live storytelling

    Bedpost Confessions is a live show and podcast featuring no-holds-barred storytelling about sex and sexuality. If you’re in Austin, Texas, you can check it out live tonight.

  7. sexgenderbody:

    The Brooklyn-based director of Subjectified: Nine Young Women Talk About Sex, an acclaimed documentary on female sexuality in the United States, has launched Do Tell– a Tumblr for people (particularly women, but anyone can participate) to anonymously share their stories about their “sexual history, beliefs, experiences, confusions, turning points.”

    The project also has an accompanying hashtag (#CostofShame) for people to discuss the role of story-telling, honesty, stigma, and more on our culture and our collective sex lives.

    Tell us your story; we’re here to listen.


  8. Let’s Talk About Sex on the Internet

    Melissa Tapper Goldman wants you to share your secrets on the Internet.

    The Brooklyn-based director of Subjectified: Nine Young Women Talk About Sex, an acclaimed documentary on female sexuality in the United States, has launched Do Tell – a Tumblr for women to anonymously share their stories about their “sexual history, beliefs, experiences, confusions, turning points.”

    Tapper Goldman tells Newsweek that Do Tell expands the mission of Subjectified – de-stigmatizing female sexuality by getting more women to talk about it. She also wanted to share more stories than she could get into the documentary.

    “For me, the priority was always finding ways to humanize these stories – to stop having it be about gossip or judgment or what ‘wrong,’” she says. “I wanted to give another outlet for people to continue the conversation.”

    Tapper Goldman feared that participants in a web-based video venue would get backlash for speaking with their true identities, so she settled on Tumblr because it offered more protection than alternatives such as YouTube.

    “The bigger picture here is that it’s not necessarily safe for women to share their stories publicly,” she says. “If I went on YouTube and I told you about the first time I had sex, or finding the appropriate birth control method, I would get hate mail. I would potentially lose my job. These are the consequences for women speaking up.”

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  9. dotellstories:

    Hip Hop is For Lovers #HH4L talks sex, vulnerability, and openness, plus some amazing music. LOVE!

    "Let’s talk about sex, baby!" What is the cost of shame when we discuss sex? Intimacy? Love? Join your fearless hostesses and special guests Kyana, XD, and Whitney for a talk about openness, honesty, and indy film Subjectified by Melissa Tapper Goldman. Features music by Lady, Trina, David Banner, and Salt-n-Pepa. -@hiphopis4lovers

    More information over at Spreakernote: give it 10 seconds to start, there is a short delay.


  10. dotellstories:

    In 2006, I met my first real-deal boyfriend. I was a senior in college, 22, and one of those late-in-life virgins, waiting for the ideal circumstances to have sex. When we had sex the first time, it hurt. When we had sex every other time, it hurt. But I had no way to describe what was happening in the dark, no way to talk about it, no language to explain.

    "My ‘Diet Caffeine-Free Rape’" by Elissa Bassist. Read on at The Cut. Trigger warning: this essay talks specifically and graphically about rape.